Are you a broke single mom who just started a business?

Having children is costly! So this may affect you as a single mom, especially if you are broke.
This is not a how to blog post. Maybe later in my business I will be able to write a ‘how to separate business from personal finances’. Right now, when everything that my kids need depends on me, I simply cannot separate the two.

I could. If I had the super self discipline and dependent on other streams of income.

This is how I manage to save up and be able to never run out of essentials as the kids are the most important thing in my life right now.

People in business would disagree, maybe and argue that you do what is necessary. Why not get a job? I tried for years and besides I do not like the idea of working for someone else. Black people in South Africa are going through a lot just to feed their babies and it is sad. I cannot come back home overworked without time to focus on my business and my kids. I believe so much in it from the rate at which it’s growing and the love I have for it and I’d rather raise my kids myself.

Time is running out, I hear this a lot. I have been working a lot on myself regarding wanting to impress people on social media. I think working on those emotions is important. ‘You must look a certain way to be perceived a certain way’. I haven’t bought clothes for myself in a long time. The clothes I have are enough. I dont need to follow every trend that comes up.

I do take care of myself and use some money on small unessential things. I am, however, mindful of every cent I use from my bank account and wallet. I achieve this by asking myself ‘will it make me feel guilty after using the money?’ It always depends on the value it brings and if im fine with it then I proceed. Sometimes it’s a matter of having to buy something to eat.

I also try to use money when I have money coming in. I dont like running out altogether.

Eating at my grandma’s. I stay in a shack not too far from my grandmother’s house (family house). Contributing to the groceries within my family is better for me that having my own grocery list. Obviously this comes with having to eat whatever has been cooked at home 😂. My grandma and I started a garden and it’s part of how we try to save up. Also it’s better to eat from what you grow and there are so many reasons for starting a garden that I find beneficial.
I am very content with my situation and have a plan in place to get out of ‘broke-ness’ ( with the help of faith in God). You wont find me using the word poverty as it makes me feel helpless. If you are,like me, going through financial struggles. Calm down. Stop worrying and trust God. I know how hard it is to not be able to enjoy life like the other ‘kids’ 😂😂. Learning that we all have different journeys is important. Comparing yourself to others is living a life that is not your own. Go at your own pace and in your own lane.

Hoping that this helps someone if you are a broke single mom trying to build up your life for you kid’s future and generations beyond.

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  1. Nice keep going girl ✊

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  2. Fitness Bae says:

    I read this and felt so many different emotions and I loved it. What stood out for me is the positive energy you have that despite the current situation it will not remain the same. I’m just like you when it comes to clothes. I don’t recall the last time I bought myself anything new I try and get things that will go the distance.
    Growing your own food is best and you know there aren’t extra additives. Sounds like you and your family are very close. Stay strong, the best is yet to come 🙂

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  3. Elizabeth says:

    I was a single mom for 11 years and usually had very little or no money. I purposely chose employment that allowed me to be a mother. I don’t regret a single moment of it and think you are living by the most important values of all. God bless you.

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    1. Siphosetu says:

      We all have a choice. But for me it is more about freedom than it is just about being able to provide. I dont want my children to feel like I wasn’t there for them or I could have done more. It is also about uplifting others. I cannot do that whilst Im down.

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      1. Elizabeth says:

        Your kids are only small once. I am so glad they know you are there.

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