A black child does not graduate only for themselves

18 October 2017, the day I should have been at my happiest… yet not. I was under a lot of strain and if it wasn’t for my family, which I had underestimated their importance, I would still be beating myself up and stuck in anxiety… that is one story for another day but my whole point is that when you graduate, you should be happy right! Happy that after so much hardwork, sleepless nights, and resilience you finally made it to the top or the finals. Although for me this will not be the last time I graduate.

It was a tough week prio to the graduation date, hiring, buying, requesting😨 . Hair, makeup, transport. It gives me a headache just from thinking about it! I’m glad it’s over.

I had planned at the beginning of the year I’d write a long speech about this moment. I can’t seem to find the right words to describe it. I’m happy but not as I imagined. I’m not excited. Maybe because the real world of work has just kicked in! Maybe beacause even with my attempts in trying to find work I’ll fall in the statistics of …% unemployed graduates in South Africa. Don’t get me wrong I’m optimistic and I will do all I can to find myself a good journalistic job that I deserve, or maybe I will take just about anything that comes along.

Not all was bad about my graduation, it was beautiful how my family came together to make it possible. I have to give credit to my baby’s father and his mom for being there.

I felt relieved that my aunt could come with me. I was not happy that my mom was not there but I’m not blaming her, she had her reasons.

I learnt something valuable about my experience on this big day:

How this day is not only just about me.

So I wrote something to clarify this.

I didn’t do it just for me, I did it for my son-his future depends on mine

I did for my late sister- I carried on from where she left off, I got to reach an age she never reached. I got to graduate and she was robbed off of that chance.

I did for my family, to make them proud. I’m the first to graduate and this to them is as important as it is to me

I did it for my community to bring hope to those who no longer see education as a key to success.

I did it for every student, learner or child at preschool still at the beginning of this never-ending journey to say it possible and they can make it too

I did it for every lecturer, teacher and every mentor who built me up to this woman fighting with all I have and beat the challenges of growing up in a black township. I say thank you.

I cannot forget to thank God, it was his mercies that this day finally came.

I am a graduate. I am proud. But this is where the real story of a Journalist actually begins and it looks scary…

61 Comments Add yours

  1. Her Majesty says:

    Congratulations on this great achievement. You certainly did it for a whole lot more than yourself. I wish you the best from here on. Xx

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    1. Siphosetu says:

      Thank you sis. πŸ’œ I only realised it later on that it meant more than just me graduating for myself.

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  2. ellie894 says:

    Warm congratulations on achieving such heights in the face of such odds. And all my best wishes for a bright and hopeful future for you and your son. He’s the best reason to keep going. God bless and keep you. warmly, suzanne ❀️

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    1. Siphosetu says:

      Finally now I know your name, all this time I’ve been calling you Ellie. Thank you Suzanne. It really has been a hard journey and I’m hoping for the best of future too! I do everything because of my guy. πŸ’œ

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      1. ellie894 says:

        All good! 😊 I can only imagine how hard it’s been for you. I can tell that you do. 😌. All good things for both of you. ❀️

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  3. abostar says:

    My dear I am sooo proud of you, me and you know the struggles we had to go through in order to reach this level… so many great things are coming your way this is just the beginningπŸ˜™πŸ˜™Ntinga ntaka ndini!!!!!!!πŸ™πŸ™πŸ™πŸ™β€β€β€

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    1. Siphosetu says:

      Aw man it has been such a journey! I’m proud we made it this far! 😊 sonqandwa ziinkwenkwezi! πŸ’œπŸ’œ

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  4. LaToya says:

    Congratulations to you!!!

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    1. Siphosetu says:

      Thank you love.πŸ’œ at last I made it this far!

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  5. Tammy7711 says:

    You can do ALL things through Christ that strengthens you! Go forth and do your best in Jesus Name! Congrats and God bless! πŸ˜‡πŸ™β€

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    1. Siphosetu says:

      Thank you.πŸ’œ thank you! Your comments are so touching. I feel like crying and shouting ‘Bloggers are awesome!’

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      1. Tammy7711 says:

        You’re utmost welcome my dear! ❀❀

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  6. dynaxty says:

    Congratulations! On your graduation. God who has seen and brought you thus far will see you through and take you to greater heights in all your future endeavors. #Peace

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    1. Siphosetu says:

      Thank you! 😊 God has been so good to make it possible for me to reach this stage of my life. πŸ’œ

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  7. Wow! Beautifully written. I had a similar experience as well. Graduation day is still a blur to me. So many mixed emotions. But congratulations and keep that head up, girl! You did it! No matter how scary the next step looks, you’re ready! Go get it!!!!

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    1. Siphosetu says:

      Congrats to you too! Thank you for your inspirational words! 😊 I’ll prepare for the next step and I’ll be fully ready for it! Forward we move! If I may ask which course did you graduate in?

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      1. Thank you! I studied Advertising Communications.

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  8. Afzal Moolla says:

    deepest and heartfelt congratulations on your remarkable and hard-fought achievement! your words are profoundly moving and deeply touching. the legacy of apartheid is with us. it still rears its ugly face in the trials and tribulations of every South African of colour. May your dreams and wishes be fulfilled and may you rise to the highest levels of your chosen profession. Thank you for sharing your poignant sentiments with us.

    with the warmest of wishes for health, peace, success and joy in your life.

    Kea leboga, ngiyanbonga, enkosi, ndo livhuwa, thank you again.

    Peace and Equality for All. The struggles continue.

    βœŒβœŠπŸ‘

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    1. Siphosetu says:

      Enkosi! 😊 thank you so much for such heartwarming words. I’ll be doing everything in my power to find success, peace and joy in my life! πŸ˜ŠπŸ’œ

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      1. Afzal Moolla says:

        all thanks to you, a true inspiration! no thank-yous needed as it has been all your hard work and sacrifices that should be read by every South African.

        Enkosi and stay well!

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  9. Congratulations, Siphosetu. I’m very happy for you. May all your beautiful dreams come true. Nice piece you wrote above. I’m reading that again. πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—

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    1. Siphosetu says:

      Thanks Teslim. I had wanted to write about it for a while but finding what to write exactly was hard. I hope my dreams do come true.

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      1. Definitely! Much love, Siphosetu.

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    1. Siphosetu says:

      I will just now.πŸ’œ

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      1. Alice says:

        Thank you!

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  10. Yanga Ziwele says:

    Thank you. ❀

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    1. Siphosetu says:

      Thank you for reading .πŸ’œ

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  11. Congratulations! Don’t let the odds and future responsibilities steal your joy enjoy the moment many lived to see it. The God who saw you through school will also In due time provide a job!

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  12. You should be exceptionally proud of yourself, and your accomplishments. Congrats to you!!!

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    1. Siphosetu says:

      I am proud! Thank you Beckie. πŸ˜ŠπŸ’œ

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  13. Avuya says:

    This is amazing. Congratulations,wish you all the best.

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  14. Congratulations. God got you πŸ’•

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  15. Joan Akob says:

    Congratulations on this giant milestone!! God being your helper, you will soar higher!!! Xo πŸ™ŒπŸ™ŒπŸ˜ŠπŸ˜Š

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  16. Mawande Mqikela says:

    I’m proud of you Mntase.. Felt inspired, to push more and dream big.. I’ll be joining you soon.. 😊😊

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    1. Siphosetu says:

      Join Mntase, the future is ours. ❀

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  17. Congratulations dear. All the best of blessings and luck headed your way. Keep on making your family proud 🌹

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    1. Siphosetu says:

      Thank you Sharon. πŸ’œ

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  18. ChevsLife says:

    Congratulations!

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    1. Siphosetu says:

      Thank you.πŸ’œ

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  19. Beautiful post. Congratulations on your graduation! Wishing you all the best. (PS: glad I discovered your blog πŸ™‚

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    1. Siphosetu says:

      Thank you.πŸ’œ I’m also so happy to hear that 😊😊

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  20. ladylebz says:

    Congrats girl!!! You are excellence, brilliance and will do super well in the present and the future πŸ™‚

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    1. Siphosetu says:

      Thank you love.πŸ’œ

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  21. Beautifully said. Heartfelt congratulations to you and best wishes for your future!

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  22. Saydee says:

    I somehow relate. After getting my honors degree earlier this year, I was unbothered by celebrating the one thing I had cried endlessly over. But we gotta give ourselves credit. You worked hard and here you are, black child. Shine! ❀

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  23. Congratulations 🍾🎊🎈! What an accomplishment!!!

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    1. Siphosetu says:

      Thank you Charlene.

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  24. primeoptimum says:

    It’s equally mine. Congratulations

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    1. Siphosetu says:

      Thank you so much.

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  25. For some reason WordPress doesn’t let me follow you and an error message pops up when I try. 😦 But i’ll keep coming back to read your inspiring posts!

    Thank you for them. Hope you find some time to keep reading my story, too.

    Would you consider recommending my blog to your readers/followers? I know you like strong women, conquerors, survivors.

    They would have a chance of reading a blog still in the process of being written – and a woman rediscovered.

    Have a great November! X

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    1. Siphosetu says:

      I’m so hurt that you can’t follow my blog. Do try again some other time it also happens to me too when trying to follow other blogs. I love your blog and all this time I thought you were following me. But it’s fine I’ll share your blog with my readers. Keep writing πŸ’œ

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  26. That Other Petra Guy says:

    Either way, Congratulations!

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    1. Siphosetu says:

      Thank you.πŸ’œ

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  27. Tshego says:

    I totally get this! nicely done sisi xx

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    1. Siphosetu says:

      Thank you love.πŸ’œ

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  28. woeful2016 says:

    Congratulations, it’s a while since I graduated and reading this, I wish I’d put into words what that moment felt like.

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    1. Siphosetu says:

      Thank you. First graduations are the ultimate dream. 😊. Mine wasn’t so perfect but it was the best achievement. πŸ’œ

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