6 ways to cope with a breakup

Sometimes I feel like I can conquer the world and believe I’m happy without any thought of you. At times I feel like breaking down missing your warm hold around my waist while we lie down cosily. 

This is how it feels to leave the person you thought was your forever.

Here’s how I cope:

1. I write about my pain, my happiness, my doubts and everything in between. Blogging has helped me shed some of the weight so I could face each day. Writing about my personal life was the hardest decision I’d ever had to make.

2. Having something to do keeps me busy with work and I don’t have time worrying about my broken heart. If I was at home 24/7 I would be nursing my loneliness. So keeping yourself busy helps forget for a while.

3. Where I do my learnership we are two girls among 3 funny guys. They make me laugh like all the time. If I had to choose, I would be with them. 

4. I party.😁, I have been partying a lot lately and I’m not even one bit ashamed of it. I’ve never been a party animal, but being around a lot of people has helped me realise that there’s more to life than having a boyfriend. Interacting with other people also made me realise that there’s still something beautiful and interesting about me. When going through a breakup you start being insecure about your body.  

5. I tell myself it is OK because anything that was meant to last would have lasted. No point in waiting on what could never happen. You will find someone who will love you they way you want to be loved rather than settling for what is safe and familiar. You just have to make this about you and your happiness.

6.I spend more time with family and friends. It has given me more time to be with my son. Now I appreciate the moments I spend with those close to me. 

Hoping that you get something out of my writing and an angel somewhere will be able to handle a breakup with my tips. 

If youve been through a breakup what did you do to get over  it?

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37 Comments Add yours

  1. Mbalenhle says:

    6 days ago my boyfriend and l broke up, after being together for 4 years. I only started coping yesterday, the first 5 days and nights I spent them crying mainly because l was thinking of how much this break up is hurting me. Yesterday l decided to see him in hopes that l get closure. And l did get it because he apologized and stopped making it seem as though l was in the wrong. I only need an apology for me to move onπŸ’–. Thanks for sharing

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    1. Siphosetu says:

      It becomes even harder when there’s no apology. And you start feeling guilty for doing what’s right for you. Worse when you have a child together. Thank you sis for your response. πŸ’œ

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  2. abostar says:

    When you break up with the man you thought you were going to spend the rest of your life with shutters all the plans you made fo the future, I was in a relationship for 4 years and we were engaged. I still love him even to this day but we both realised we could never be together. It’s sad and I cried about it for months and the pain is still there but not like before. I’m slowly finding my way each and every day. One thing I’ve realised is that life is tooo short to be crying over things you can not change, the best feeling is finding yourself and that’s what is happening to me😊

    Thanks Sethu for such a good read I enjoy reading your blig posts. Keep writing ❀

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    1. Siphosetu says:

      Thanks Abo. Much appreciated πŸ’œ

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  3. Joan Akob says:

    Shuu😒…Things we can’t avoid hey. Lovely post😊. I go the extreme route and block connections from all social media accounts. And after a while of not seeing/talking or even knowing whether they exist, I somehow come to a space where I realise and make peace with the fact that it’s over and I’ve moved on πŸ˜…

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    1. Siphosetu says:

      I have to have some kind of communication with the father to discuss what we need to do for our son’s sake. Thank you for reading love.πŸ’œ

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      1. Joan Akob says:

        Sure 😊. More grace & strength to you!

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      2. Siphosetu says:

        πŸ’œπŸ’œ

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  4. Thanks for sharing this. It’s really going to be helpful.

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    1. Siphosetu says:

      I’m glad you like my writing. It means lots πŸ’œ

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  5. The most important relationship in my life ended last month. You are right. Writing it all down and scribbling your life down sure helps. Sometimes it’s not enough, but what else can one do..

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    1. Siphosetu says:

      Writing helps a lot at reflecting on what is happening so you can be able to face it and fix your life. Thank you for reading πŸ’œ

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  6. Great post πŸ‘

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    1. Siphosetu says:

      Thank you. 😊

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      1. You’re welcome

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  7. Kip Walkin says:

    Very informative in a light-hearted way. We need to be easy on ourselves when faced with these situations. Great post!🌷

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    1. Siphosetu says:

      Thank you very much πŸ’•

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      1. Kip Walkin says:

        You are welcome dear!🌷

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  8. This was a good blog and I enjoyed reading this.
    Hardcore rap music helped me through a break up because it gave that I don’t give a fuck attuide.
    Silent Untiy was an app I downloaded and I use to call the prayer warriors to help me and gave me strength to continue my day.
    Talking with a therapists.
    Writing poetry
    Also most would disagree but rethinking about the pain and being heartbroken helps you in the future. In the beginning thinking about it will destroy and get you distracted but what happens is after a while your brain get tired of thinking the same thing over and over.
    Strip clubs for sure helped me ☺
    Those girls kept my mind occupied.
    Also taking with other women
    And making female friends helped me but I didn’t rush into a relationship no time soon. Listening to other people talk about their heartbreak and gearing their experiences help me because it made me realize that I’m not alone and a heartbreak is something we all go through.
    I wrote a poem remedy for the broken heart it’s on my blog page.
    I would send you the link but it won’t allow me to send you the link

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    1. Siphosetu says:

      I appreciate your honesty and how you open up and be vulnerable about it. thank you so much.

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  9. Jerry Peri says:

    Nice one, offering an opportunity for people to share their troubles. It is true that a problem shared is a problem solved! Well done!
    I wrote a lot on relationship issues in the Relationships Category of my blog @ http://www.jerriperri.com/category/relationship/issues/
    You may care to check out “Why Some People Suffer Over Matters Of The Heart” @ http://www.jerriperri.com/heart-2/

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    1. Siphosetu says:

      Thank you. I’ll check it out now. πŸ’œ

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  10. queenk says:

    I was with someone for over four years. We officially ended things over a year ago and I feel like I am still trying to get over him and the situation. Small steps every day! I tried dating around, which was fun. I ended up officially dating someone else but I just broke it off yesterday. Going to focus on ME! And be in a relationship with myself for a while ❀

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    1. Siphosetu says:

      I think you just came with the most important part of it and forgot to put it on the list. Nothing tops self-love and discovering more about yourself through the process. Thank you for the reminder. πŸ’œ

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    1. Siphosetu says:

      Yes Music! Helps a lot! I remember I’d listen to RnB and it would make me cry even more, but I later changed to dance music and it helped a lot at making me feel happy.

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  11. A few months ago my ex broke up with me which left me absolutely heartbroken. I had some trouble coping for the first two weeks until I realized that I will forever feel miserable unless i take control of my own life and invest in self love. I look up positive affirmations and self love quotes. School keeps me busy and accomplishing things boosts my confidence in myself as well. Also, stepping outside of my comfort zone and making a friend off tinder and speaking out more in my class really helps me too.

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  12. kampiloto says:

    I loved this post, I’ve just been through a toxic breakup from a toxic relationship and this is a great post. I’d really love it if you checked out the one I’d just written on my experience getting through it. Thanks love x

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    1. Siphosetu says:

      Thank you for coming by. πŸ’œ I’ll be checking it now.

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  13. mathiashague says:

    This is rather refreshing, thanks for the tips! Broke up with my GF recently and it’s getting easier.

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    1. Siphosetu says:

      It gets easier with time. Thanks for stopping by Mathias. πŸ’œ

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      1. mathiashague says:

        Thank you and no problem – Will probably be stopping by more often.

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  14. These are great tips! We have to believe time heals all wounds & try to find ways to heal ourselves. Thanks for sharing! πŸ™‚

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  15. My most recent break up had me in shambles. I finally walked away and I SAGED my whole life for like 2 months.

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    1. Siphosetu says:

      It just becomes too much to handle. But it is part of life and you learn a lot about yourself in the process.

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      1. Wayyy too much but I definitely learned a lot. And the next guy better come correct or get left in the rearview lol

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      2. Siphosetu says:

        He better be good and behave! πŸ˜‚

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